If you’re a soon-to-be or a fairly new dad and often times find yourself either overwhelmed or clueless about all the research, planning and decision making connected to babies and fatherhood, I can relate to you!
Hi, I’m Tanel Jappinen (from now on TJ), and this is my beautiful wife and the mother of our baby, Maret (MJ). This is before our baby made her grand debut. In January 2015 we became brand new parents! YAY!
We had been in relationship for 12 years when we finally decided to tie the knot. After that it didn’t take long when she announced that she’s expecting. I was overseas and this phone call changed my life. I’d like to think the change is for the better, but I will let time to judge that.
Expecting our baby was quite a roller-coaster – I had some short periods of panic, feeling unadulterated fear for myself, my wife and our relationship. Then there were other times when I felt sense of accomplishment, pride, deeper love for my wife or just a bigger purpose for my life.
Now that she’s with us highs have gotten higher and the lows even lower.
Although I had always wanted to be a father one day, actually being one is very different. All in all I’ve come to understand that becoming a brand new father is a big responsibility, but it isn’t the end to my life.
I’m not here to tell you what’s RIGHT and what’s WRONG, I’m pretty sure there is NO RIGHT WAY to raise kids. I started this blog for myself and like-minded young fathers and soon-to-be fathers (moms are also welcome) who want to be present and involved in raising their kids. I’m here to learn right alongside YOU, the reader. I’m open to share my (and my wife’s) wins and fails, accomplishments, lessons and struggles in parenting, and hopefully we will have some funny stories to share with you along the way.
I’m trying to stay sane, be the best version of myself and make conscious decisions to help our baby-girl to grow up to be healthy, happy and confident.
I am from Estonia, a tiny country in North-Eastern Europe. However, I’ve spent big portion of my young adulthood in USA.
Me and my wife, we’re high school sweethearts. When we were in college we came across a summer internship in USA. The job was to sell educational books door to door in American suburbs. We were young and adventurous, and it sounded like an awesome challenge.
Long story short, I ended up doing well that year and now I have been working for them for last 10 summers (my wife did it for 5). Looking back to this experience, it has been one of the best parenting preparation “course” I’ve ever come across.
I’m far from being an expert – I have exactly as much practical experience in raising kids as my grandma has on Twitter. Zilch, zero, nada!
However, during my summers in USA I met 20 000+ American parents in their homes and talked about their kids, their education and their kids’ future. I met parents from all walks of life,
from Florida to Oregon, from Texas to Minnesota;
from highly populated suburbia to country roads and farmlands;
families living in single wide trailer homes to multi-million dollar mansions;
I met first generation immigrants and families that had lived in USA for generations.
Doesn’t matter what the background or environment, most of the families seemed to care a lot about their kids. What amazed me the most was that even though their intentions (when raising their kids) were good, not all of them (the parents nor the kids) were happy. I met some wonderful families and I learned a lot about myself and about how I would like to raise my family.
I am not a specialist in child development, a psychologist nor a pediatrician – I don’t have any fancy credentials before or after my name. Instead, I am a new father who has made a commitment to make conscious decisions when it comes to raising my child or being there for my wife. All of this content is subjective from my point of view.